Howard Falkinburg

A blog about my rehabilitation and recovery from a spinal cord injury that left me paralyzed with quadriplegia.


Strategies in dealing with stress

Sometimes I just wanna have a drink. An adult one.

I had a newer staff on Sunday morning. She had done my care once before but she seemed to be in a brain fog today. I have to give her multiple instructions and sometimes it still wasn’t registering.

I was becoming more aggravated and it came out a little bit. I want to start screaming and I checked myself. ” She is still new. She is still learning.”

But I really don’t think the staff is appropriate for the line of work. She is a senior in health management systems. This is a different level in working hands-on with recipients. 

I had her recruit another staff for hands-on assistance. Frustration amps my tone up, which is not good.

After we finished the morning care, I went to my favorite spot at the Calvin University nature preserve. This is a 10 minute wheelchair ride. I just hung out on a deck overlooking a pond, which is pictured here.

I put my wheelchair tilted back mode and I dangle my arms over the sides. I’ll work on extending my arms straight downward, stretching my pec muscles.

I just soak in nature working on my breathing. A breath in is calmness and a breath out releases any stress. I will observe any tension in my body and release that also.

This puts me in a better headspace and relaxes my body just a bit.

I invite you readers to try and work on this technique. Please pass on strategies you use in dealing with stress.



8 responses to “Strategies in dealing with stress”

  1. Good talking to you yesterday, Howard. It looks as though you have a lovely place to escape to during good weather. For some reason, when stressed from a situation and feeling it, I say aloud “It’s over!” That helps me realize I don’t have to keep experiencing the frustration level that was going on during the situation. I think saying it oud loud is 100% more helpful than just thinking “it’s over.” It’s almost like someone else is saying it and I am really hearing it.

    1. Hi Jane. Thanks for sharing. I’ll have to add that in my little tool kit of skills.

  2. Thanks for sharing, Howard. Interesting that I read your post just after listening to a review of a book called Breathe by James Nestor. Seems like I need to pay more attention to the value that proper breathing can offer. Also, glad you were able to get outside on such a beautiful day.

    1. Hi Tom. Interesting you mentioned that book by James Nester. I’ve had it on my queue to purchase through audible. Thanks for bringing it back to my attention. I hope all is well.

  3. I think the stretching, taking the time away from the regular day and all that it presents is a part I could also really benefit from. I tense up and overuse these same muscles.

    Thanks for this.

    1. Amen to that. When my muscles get tense, I really feel it and it hurts. I sometimes get so focused on what I need to do that causes further tension. Taking a little breaks through the day is a good idea.

  4. Howard ! So glad I came across your blog and have really enjoyed reading your last couple entries. You’re a hell of a strong guy and I hope the physical and mental improvements and outlook on life continue to shape your present and future. Rooting for you ! -Taylor

    1. Taylor! So awesome to hear from you. Thanks for reading the blog. This has been a hell of a ride for me. I recently met up with Pukah, Molly and gang for dinner. It was great seeing them. I miss you guys! I hope you’re doing well. Look me up the next time you’re in GR. It’d be good to see you.

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